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Why do women cheat? – ‘The Why’

Why do women cheat?

Welcome to the newest edition of The Why.
Everywhere you look the media is pushing you telling you who to follow, what to watch and when to watch it.   You’re even sometimes told how to do it all.  Truth is, here at American Live Wire we do a bit of that too.  The big difference is we also tell you why.

You ask the questions.  We provide the answers.

“Why do women cheat?” you ask?

As in the previous piece on cheating, we shall define “cheating” as engaging in sexual intercourse outside of a monogamous relationship.  Again, it should be noted that this is yet another question that’s based on a false assumption. We played fair in our last discussion of the infidelity of men so let’s do the same here.  Not all women cheat.  For the sake of argument, however, and to respond to the reader’s question we will generalize in order to answer the question: “Why do women cheat?”

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Why do women cheat?

Upon learning that female infidelity would be the topic this edition, women spoke up again.  So much so, comments had to be included once more.

KayKay Jagger reminds us that “some (women) don’t cheat.”  While this is true we’re trying to find the answer to a question posed by someone hurt by infidelity. How did other s respond to the question: “Why do women cheat?”  Let’s see . . .

Christine Burke Heck referenced the movie Moonstruck as did someone else in the previous piece.  She also thinks people cheat “because they fear death.”  (Must be a chick thing.)

Jennifer Zeigler Keller believes women cheat “usually because men sometimes inadvertently make them feel unattractive or unworthy, and it only takes someone to pay attention to her and it’s a slippery slope from there!”  (As we will see, this is, in fact one of the top reasons women cheat according to such online sources as AskMen—“feeling ignored, neglected or unappreciated”.)

Sharon L. Bradbury Also touches upon this and says “most women cheat because they aren’t getting their emotional needs met at home. Usually starts out that the woman finds a man that listens to her & makes her feel good about themselves.”  (Sources such as WebMD also agree that a lack of emotional involvement is also a frequent reason.)

Bradbury added: “If the woman is not getting physical closeness, the guy fills that need as well. “  (Again, our readers hit the nail on the head as other common reasons listed online include “not enough sex” and “lack of intimacy.”)

Regular reader Mickey Mignot said: “I have to go with weakness again.  How about selfishness?”

Other readers, such as Teasia Deskin, also agreed with selfishness as a possible motivator for cheating.  She also think such things as “money and drugs (can) make women cheat (especially) if the woman “has a drug problem”.

Still more frequently given responses to the question: “Why do women cheat?” included “sexual addiction”,  the need to be “the bad girl” or “sex kitten”, a lack of self-esteem, “payback for past (non-sexual) wrongs”, being “bored in the bedroom” and using cheating as “an exit strategy  (to a failing relationship)”.  Finally, the number one response to the question: “Why do women cheat?” is “revenge for infidelity”.  (You did it to me and now I’m gonna do it to you.)

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Why do women cheat?

Still, when it comes to women there must be still more behind the question: “Why do men cheat?”  Very well, let’s consult a professional.  Helen Fisher, a Rutgers University biological anthropologist and author of Why Him? Why Her? AndWhy We Love notes that “women  . . . are more likely to (cheat) because of loneliness.

She adds that “while men can be a lot happier in their primary relationship and also cheat, women are more interested in  . . . jumping ship than men are — for men, it is a secondary strategy as opposed to an alternate.”  This attitude might explain why a recent survey indicated that while 22 percent of married men cheat only 14 percent of married women do.  (They file for divorce before they get caught.)

“Why do women cheat?”  Is it as simple as previous contributor Hardin Paula Cox Hardin thinks: “because they want to”?  Perhaps, women, like men, cheat because–for one reason or the other–they come to a point in their relationships where they feel they have to cheat.  Perhaps songstress Susan Devita  said it best: “Monogamy isn’t for everyone.”

“Why do women cheat?”  Now you know.

(Reader Bradbury offers some small comfort if a woman does cheat on you and “she falls in the category of a serial cheating slut, then dump the b*tch” and move on. . .)

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Why do women cheat?

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About Will Phoenix

W. Scott Phoenix, B.A., B.S. was born in Hawaii, raised in Pennsylvania and resides in California. He has been a published writer since 1978. His work has appeared (under various names) in numerous places in print and online including Examiner.com. He is a single parent of three children and has also worked as an actor, singer and teacher. He has been employed by such publications as the Daily Collegian and the Los Angeles Times.