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Why Do Girls Never Want Nice Guys? – ‘The Why’

Welcome to the newest edition of The Why. “Why do girls never want nice guys?” you ask? Good question. While yours truly once wrote a “Dr. Love” column he doesn’t have all the answers when it comes to women. In fact, he has very few. Luckily, decades of life experience has enabled your randy writer to learn a bit about this one.

Yes, early in life it might appear that girls don’t want nice guys. They want “bad boys”. It’s a fact of life . . . or so it seems.  To tell the truth, girls do want nice guys.

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Unfortunately, it usually is not until they learn the truth about “bad boys”. For some of them it doesn’t kick in until they have gone through a bad marriage or three, a divorce or two and perhaps even an eating disorder or substance addiction issue.

To a lot of girls “nice” means “weak”. Nice means “boring.” A bad boy seems more manly than a nice guy.  Girls want excitement. They want mystery, surprise and drama. (Yeah, it takes a bad boy or two before they learn that drama can be a bad thing.)

Initially though, the bad boy is all attitude, carelessness, isolation, self-indulgence and selfishness. One thing that leads to is a sense of mystery and excitement.  These personality traits play on a girl’s psyche.

(Consequently this also teaches boys that being bad is better than being good. This teaches boys that being a bad boy gets you more hokey-pokey time while being a nice guy either gets you abused, ignored or added to the dreaded “Friends List.” (No, there are no “benefits” for those on this list.)

Girls perceive a nice guy as weaker than the bad boy who flaunts his so-called “strength”. They feel it is acceptable to use a nice guy and leave him hanging. Nice guys are easy to handle but bad boys are a challenge.

While this might seem weird you need to remember we’re talking about girls here. Maybe sometimes girls enjoy the chase more than actually immediately having a relationship.

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Maybe sometimes girls like to think they have the power to change a bad boy when nice guys are pretty much ready-made. Maybe it’s the fact that a pseudo-relationship is oft’times flashier. Hang in there though, guys, because as you get a little older your stock goes up.

So chin up, chum. Save your money. Stay in shape. If girls keep clinging to the bad boys someday soon the nice guy will be an endangered species in a world of @**holes.

Why do girls never want nice guys?  Now you know.

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About Will Phoenix

W. Scott Phoenix, B.A., B.S. was born in Hawaii, raised in Pennsylvania and resides in California. He has been a published writer since 1978. His work has appeared (under various names) in numerous places in print and online including Examiner.com. He is a single parent of three children and has also worked as an actor, singer and teacher. He has been employed by such publications as the Daily Collegian and the Los Angeles Times.
  • Carmen gonzales

    Mr. Phoenix, you hit this nail right on the head. Very mature insight!

    • Will Phoenix

      Thanks Carmen,
      I have to say that this column gives me the chance to share my experience as well as flex my research skills. I used both this time. ZThanks for reading my stuff!