Welcome to the newest edition of The Why. “Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do?” you ask? Good question. (Besides, it beats answering the question: “Why can women smell when other women are having their ‘you know’?” Seriously? You can’t even say it and we’re supposed to explain it? Besides, that’s kind of a nasty thought and what—other than the obvious hygiene-related response—could we tell you anyway?)
So why don’t men hate being single as much as women do? You might guess it’s because when guys are single they can watch porn and play video games and girlfriends make you give up both. Evan Marc Katz who blogs about dating laughs and says that’s “not the entire picture.”
There are several points upon which different sources agree:
Basic Needs–Most of a guy’s basic needs for companionship, fun and laughs can be found in hanging out with other guys.
Communication Styles—Katz agrees that men may need help but only women ask for help. Even in relationships even if guys “feel the . . . need to connect, they rarely reach out to do so.”
Self-Definition—Guys “define themselves by their careers.” Katz continues: “Women . . . are, in general, more emotional and intuitive . . . define their lives by their relationships. So when they lack a partner, they’ll be disproportionately sadder than men, who just bury themselves in more work and (sometimes) play.”
Sex – Guys don’t truly want the kind of relationship gals do. Remember, most of a guy’s needs are met by his buddies and his career. Guys separate sex and love so being single is less of an issue.
Expectations about relationships—Katz claims “this is the most important point of all. Women expect their relationships to be transcendent. They expect the man to illuminate and inspire.”
He states: “Guys don’t work that way. (Guys) want someone who is attractive, who doesn’t criticize us or tell us how much we need to change.” Guys want a gal they can “spend lots of time with without getting bored, who (they) can bring around . . . friends and families with minimal incident.”
Men can date a lot of women. Katz states: “We think you’re fine as you are. We just hate the fact that you need us to change so much.” Still, men can date lots of women.
Women have a laundry list of requirements and specifications. Because of this Katz confirms that women “can only date .0001 percent of men.”
He reiterates that guys “can separate sex and love.” He concludes: “We define ourselves by our work, we don’t lack dating options, we get 95 percent of our needs met without female companionship, and we don’t talk about relationships nearly as much.”
Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do? Now you know.
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