Welcome to the newest edition of The Why. “Why do women who aren’t fat think they are fat?” Good question. (OK, it’s a little “Cosmo” but it beats answering inquiries about odd, intimate acts. Seriously? We thought “Hogging” was a motorcycle term, mmmkay?)
Now remember: We’re talking about women who really are not fat. We’re not talking about women who are obese but are in denial. “Curvy” and “fat” are not interchangeable.
Our guest speaker, Deborah Anderson, “Social Media Marketing Strategist/Coach”, confirms that “one of the top questions men have about women is: ‘Why do women who aren’t fat think they are fat?’”
Scientists say that “perception of the body” is actually increased by over 66 percent. So basically a gal who weighs about 120 pounds sees herself as being 200 pounds.
Affirmation becomes belief. Ladies tell themselves they’re fat and then they believe it. (Unfortunately, it can work the other way, too. Women who do need to lose weight can be told by an overly nice friend that they’re thin then they will believe that too.)
Some women feel pressure to be a “specific”–let’s just not be PC and say it—the “perfect” woman. Anderson says: Women see it in front of them all the time. They fixate on how women look on that cat walk.”
She adds: “men are constantly calling women fat and laughing about it.”
(Oh please! There is nothing funny about being married to a fat woman. There’s nothing humorous about having more “worse” than “better” ‘til death do you part.)
She notes that “some clothing companies only want to cater to tiny women.”
(What exactly is “tiny” and which companies are you referring to anyway? We all know that clothing made in countries where the people—both men and women—are smaller tend to make clothing that fits smaller people. That’s why you have to try everything on. Didn’t your momma ever teach you that? Besides, the overly-PC crowd who have nothing better to do –like feed starving children or housing the homeless—petition and protest against any business that tries to make money in a way in which their little group doesn’t approve. Running your business your way is a thing of the past.)
Anderson says: “Men tell women that thin is better.” (As opposed to medically obese, yes, it is. It’s healthier. Not sure where this is going now.)
She points the finger at advertising, “rude comments”, watching men who are “checking out thinner women” and that they focus on the thin women in the media. She says that” the more messages they see, the more they see imperfections.”
Anderson concludes: “The more imperfections, the more they use the word ‘fat’. The more they say ‘fat’, the more they believe it.”
Why do women who aren’t fat think they are fat? Now you know.
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